Are You Ready to Be Hired as the Best Parent Teacher for Your Child?
An effective parent is the best way to develop a child. School, preschool, and after school programs become key partners but the parent role has the most potential. Why is that?
Parents are likely to have most of the child’s time. The school may have 40 hours a week. Parents have every morning, every evening, and all weekends and holidays.
The ratio is smaller. If your family has only one child, the adult/child ratio is 1:1 or 2:1. I was raised in a home with my parents and grandparents – 4:1! 😊 The best preschool is 1:5 and public schools spiral down to 1:32.
The role of parent is much more emotionally supportive than the teacher role. I have several children. Some have gone on to fame and fortune. Others are still struggling economically. I’m 100% supportive of my children, regardless of their decisions or situations. Teachers also can be supportive but the parent role is unique. Children need support for self-confidence and success.
The strength of the parent role cannot be overstated in raising confident children to be capable adults.
You may be reading this and wondering if there are areas where you can improve parenting skills. Carol Dweck and Paul Tough have great books on this, so I’m only giving the one – minute version
Are you a single parent struggling with cash? Children can understand that their parents have struggles. My parents struggled with cash and talked about it openly. They were threatened with income insecurity. I think that the atmosphere at home made me more independent and ready to struggle. That’s not a bad thing.
My parents also balanced the struggle with caring acts. My mother baked desserts better than anything you can buy at The 4 Seasons. We had evening routines to read together and put together picture puzzles. The cost was minimal but the experience was incredible.
Are you too stressed and angry? You may have a tough situation and are not ready for incessant questions every night or the normal misbehavior of children. Look for resources so that you have one protected part of each day just for you. That will build your emotional reserves for parenting.
Stressed parents tend to speak 2/3 less to their children and usually with negative warning words. Unstressed parents speak many more words daily and many more positive words. You need emotional reserves to make the change in your language.
Are you stressed in marriage? Be careful not to ask your child for emotional support that should come from a spouse. Most marriages are not perfect. There still has to be a bright line so that your child can develop their own relationships successfully.
Are you overprotective? Richard Reeves says that children from the upper middle class/ professional class do not do as well in some jobs that require risk and decisions under pressure. Why? Their parents tried too hard to create a perfect life instead of life with the normal risks and disappointments of childhood.
Children need occasional space from their parents to push them to independence. They fight against this since we all prefer a life with eternal maid and butler service, I sent my daughter to Cambodia at age 15 by herself. As soon as the plane left Newark, I remembered many things that I should have done. I had a sleepless night. Miraculously, she developed her own capacity to get through Bangkok and on to Phnom Penh. (I would never do it again, but it was a defining moment for her with wonderful results!)
So your child needs the best teacher. Are you ready to apply?
82nd Street Academics partners with parents. If we can help your family, let us know.
PreSchool is great for child development so why do professional parents feel so guilty about it?
Jamie Ladge (article below) explains the pressure to want to be a perfect person at work and a perfect parent too.
Half of the PreSchool parents at 82nd Street Academics are also proud of their diversity – two religions, two races, two languages, LGBT. Diversity is wonderful but it needs a safe space where diversity is appreciated.
What to do?
At 82nd Street, we are a safe space. Our staff and families embrace the creative atmosphere of child-centered development. There’s a couple of family events for ‘meet and greets’ during the year. And we keep the kids happy and developing. The room cameras, emails, and daily dropoffs and pickups make sure that you know how your child is progressing.
If problems occur, tell the teacher or the program director. We’ll make it right. We promise.
And if you’re not comfortable with your current PreSchool, you can come to 82nd Street. We’ll accept your receipt for whatever you have already paid for this month at another center just to get you started. There is no substitute for the good feeling that your child is in a great place.
Kindergarten is a crucial year in early childhood education. Students at this age are hard at work learning the basics of mathematics, recognizing sight words, and writing the alphabet.
Parents can help students succeed in kindergarten, such as enrolling them in kindergarten programs after school. The staff to student ratio at public schools is 1 adult per 25 children. 82 nd Street provides a more individual attention for homework help and leadership skill building with 1 adult for 10 children.
Read Together Every Day
A lifelong love of reading is the doorway to incredible academic achievements. You can encourage your child to become a lifelong reader by setting aside time each day to read together. Let your child choose the book, even if he or she chooses the same book multiple times. Young children need repetition to truly grasp language.
Help Your Child Practice Writing
In kindergarten, children learn to write uppercase and lowercase letters, basic sight words, and their own names. Encourage your child to practice writing by having him or her create a homemade picture book. He or she can draw a series of pictures. With your help, your child can then accompany each picture with descriptive phrases and short sentences.
Encourage the Development of Math Skills
At this age, children aren’t yet ready for abstract concepts. Kindergarteners need to see visual representations of mathematic ideas. Help your child grasp basic math skills by creating learning opportunities out of real-life events. Head to the kitchen and have your child count the number of slices you can create with an apple. Ask your child to point out triangles, circles, and other shapes he or she sees around the home. Your child can learn comparing and contrasting skills by collecting pinecones or small rocks in the park and placing them in order from largest to smallest.
Students in kindergarten through fifth grade can join the After School Achievement Club at 82 nd Street Academics . Our after school program near NYC guides students in developing healthy study skills, social skills, and a positive attitude toward learning. Get started with the enrollment process today by calling (718) 457-0429. Or, visit us online for more information about our after school programs, kindergarten programs, and test prep.
Young students thrive in a structured academic environment that supports the development of the whole child. One effective way to motivate your young student is to enroll him or her in kindergarten programs or other early childhood education programs that complement what he or she learns in the public school system. It’s also essential to encourage educational experiences outside the classroom.
Support Your Child’s Interests
Children tend to learn best when they are interested and engaged in the subject matter. Encourage your child to pursue his or her academic interests outside of school. Bring your child to the library and find non-fiction and fiction books on his or her favorite topics. Ask open-ended questions about his or her hobbies and interests. These types of questions give your child practice with expressive language skills and provide positive reinforcement for his or her academic efforts.
Encourage Your Child to Take Ownership of Education
As your student grows older, he or she will display increasing independence. Help your child stay engaged in learning by giving him or her control over his or her own education, within limits. Encourage your child to select after-school activities and choose his or her own library books. Provide your child with the tools he or she needs to keep schoolwork organized, such as a day planner and large binder.
Be a Positive Role Model for Young Learners
Children mimic the actions of their parents. Let your child see that learning is an exciting, lifelong endeavor. Every day, ask your child what he or she is learning in school. Then, share your own learning experiences. Let your child know how a reference librarian helped you find information on urban gardening, for example. Set aside time each day to read together and let your child see you choose books instead of the TV.
The exceptional educational programs available at 82 nd Street Academics encourage students to develop a lifelong love of learning. Visit our website to explore our programs, which include after-school programs, summer school, piano lessons, and test prep in NYC. Then, give us a call at (718) 457-0429 and ask us how we can help your child succeed.
Does your child give you one-word answers when you ask him or her how school was? Many parents find it to be challenging to entice kids to talk about school, yet having these conversations is vitally important for early childhood education and college prep education. Discussing school with your child lets him or her know that you value education. Try using the following tips to motivate your reluctant talker to open up to you.
Choose the Right Time
When you first see your child after his or her after-school program lets out, try not to immediately begin asking questions. Many children need a little time to decompress and adjust to new surroundings. Greet your child enthusiastically, discuss the family’s plans for the rest of the day, and then ask a few questions about school.
Take Advantage of Conversation Icebreakers
Some children are more willing to discuss school if they feel that they brought up the topic first. Listen for conversational cues that your child wants to talk about school. For example, you can invite your child to talk about a school project when he or she asks you to bring him or her to the library for research.
Ask Specific, Open-Ended Questions
It’s generally best to avoid asking your child generic questions, such as “How was school today?” Your child will probably have a standard response to this question, which won’t shed any light on what he or she actually did in school. Instead, ask specific questions such as, “What was your favorite thing in school today?” “Were you able to switch lab partners?” or “What story did you read in English today?” If your child is still reluctant to discuss school, try making the questions funny for him or her. Ask your child, “If aliens invaded your school, what would they think was the weirdest or coolest thing in it?”
Students enrolled in after-school programs in NYC have the benefit of being in a safe, supportive environment while working on their schoolwork. 82 nd Street Academics provides these safe havens for kids after school, along with exceptional college prep guidance and enrichment activities. Parents who would like to learn more about our after-school programs can call us at (718) 457-0429.